In the last month or so, I’ve been noticing that my 3 year old son has been learning and discovering things more regularly. It seems like his brain is expounding by the second. He has always been a very independent child and so sometimes trying to “teach” him something was challenging. His stubbornness was sometimes linked to him being so independent. He seemed to have a better way of doing anything his father and I wanted to show him.

Lately, I’ve seen more willingness to learn thru example. I think part of it is the fact that his little brain is maturing. But I think the main reason for this change in him is his understanding and receiving of praise. He loves praise! But who doesn’t? I am in my late 20’s and I still like it! The following are 7 definitive ways on how to praise your child:

1. Look your child in the eye.

2. Move close to your child and down to their eye level.

3. Smile.

4. Praise a specific behavior. “You did such a great job cleaning up your bedroom.”

5. Speak with feeling and sincerity.

6. Touch your child affectionately, maybe a pat on the back or stroke of an arm.

7. Praise immediately, as soon as you notice commendable behavior.

Tip:Your praise should be honest and specific. Don’t dilute the effectiveness of praise by overdoing it or being insincere. Older children especially will pick up on your exaggeration.